Agape refers to the love of creation and existential transformation. Agape is the love of parent for child. You don’t try and consume a child. An there is no reciprocity, no friendship. You love it because through your love you turn a non-person into a person.
Everyone depends on agape because people loved you before you were a person that you have become the person you are. Love turns non-person animals into moral agent persons.
“It’s like, if I could just care about enough about my sofa , it would turn into a Ferrari or something.”